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Post by viperess on Apr 8, 2009 23:29:34 GMT -6
So I realize I'm not the first parent to watch our only child move out, and I know I'm not the only parent to have awful thoughts about what can happen to 'my baby' because he doesn't have me or my pearls of wisdom to help him through life right now, but I'm really having an issue with coping.
I've already been told all of the usual...'he'll be fine'...'they have to move out sometime'......but to give you the God's honest truth.....I don't know what to do with myself. I feel that any moment I'll start crying and not stop for hours. I'm off work Thursday and I'm considering just melting down at home for a while......shit......
It just hurts.....
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Post by Merlot Joe on Apr 9, 2009 0:24:10 GMT -6
We have to all let them off the leash sooner or later but I know how you feel.
Even after they are married and have children you feel the same. And then there's the grandkids to worry about.
Joe
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Post by Ardbeg... innit on Apr 9, 2009 6:14:33 GMT -6
DD, time will help out, you made it when you moved out, so did the rest of us. Rest assured that you did the best job possible, and take comfort that the phone WILL ring and there will be opportunities for you to lend a hand. Your job isnt done yet!
Until then keep yourself busy... and you can always come here for some propping up.
G
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Post by viperess on Apr 9, 2009 10:59:26 GMT -6
Appreciate that guys...I'm better in the day time. Oh I know all will work out...and he isn't straying too far....wait til he has to insure the car...
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Post by Ardbeg... innit on Apr 9, 2009 11:06:21 GMT -6
.. well now thats just plain mean  |
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Post by viperess on Apr 9, 2009 21:46:11 GMT -6
Hey....life sucks sometimes! And insurance aint cheap! Like we didn't go through this when we were kids.....live and learn NOT find out and mummy and daddy will pay for it...God I miss him....had dinner with him earlier...he's a good kid...
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Post by Christinko on Apr 9, 2009 22:19:24 GMT -6
DD, you love your son and he knows it. What a gift for you both!
Let those tears flow as you need to...sounds like you are grieving, which is natural. ch-ch-change is startling, but you both will figure out how to adjust to it...but for now, embrace those feelings and recognize them as the depth of your caring for him. (Like I know anything about kids, but still...grieving I'm familiar with, as are many of us.)
Thanks for sharing your feelings with us, gal pal!
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Post by Chicago Jake on Apr 12, 2009 23:23:58 GMT -6
DD, if you are doubting your son's ability to cope with the world on his own, then you are doubting your OWN competence as a parent! Give yourself more credit, and chill out......Jake (who realizes that I can be very glib because I've never been in your situation, but I'm still right)
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Post by edie2u on Apr 12, 2009 23:31:16 GMT -6
DD, don't worry he will be fine. In a short time you will (probably) enjoy the fact that he is on his own and you now have extra space! Your relationship will be even stronger.
I still miss my son at times, but am glad he is on his own.
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